Death and Preparing for it:
The ultimate truth about our corporeal existence is that everything physical is temporary and will, one way or another, sooner or later, fade and pass away. Death has always been romantically described as our one unavoidable destination.
However, this pragmatism cannot and should not, blindly determine our perspective towards death. We should not simply accept it as a natural phenomenon that we forget that life is not merely about existing, breathing oxygen or having the heart continuously pump blood. Death is only an inevitable consequence of our physical aspect. Everything else about life means so much more. This is why it is alright to feel pain and sadness in death. When someone dies, we lose that someone, and something in our interwoven lives suddenly disappears.
With this in mind, we have to consider preparing for our own deaths for the sake of those we’ll live behind.
Choosing the appropriate plan:
Eventually, in your planning, you will find yourself on that fork on the road where you have to choose between being buried and undergoing cremation. Your decision will solely depend on you, your personal experiences, circumstances and biases. Generally, the people we meet already know how they want their remains to be handled. However, if you are still not sure whether cremation is for you, we would like to share the common reasons why this option is considered by some.
Foremost of the reasons is that it is economical in nature. Unlike the traditional burial ceremony, when one is cremated, a burial plot is normally no longer purchased, saving on this expense for real estate. The ashes will be stored in an urn and could be given to a family member or loved one, or stored in a columbarium. Rent for columbarium spaces is normally lower than rent for plots in cemeteries.
There is also the option of not having the customary funeral and viewing services. The departed may want to have his or her remains immediately cremated. From this perspective, the estate and the family save on expenses for the wake including the venue, the transport services, the catering, to cite a few.
There could also be savings on the casket to be purchased, as it would be cheaper – and which could even be rented – because eventually the body will be cremated. In all cases, when cremation is chosen for economic reasons, it is always because of the person’s concern for those he or she will be leaving behind. Understandably, when finances are tight, even the littlest of savings will go a long way for the estate and the loved ones behind.
Another influential consideration is personal preference. Some people want to have their ashes thrown across their favorite garden, or the sea, or just sent flying across the wind, embracing the idea of freedom after life through the symbolic act of throwing ashes. Some simply prefer cremation because of their personal beliefs. For instance, many think that having a burial plot in a cemetery will always remind their loved ones of his or her passing, and would only cause grief. Some also think that being cremated will actually keep them close to their loved ones because they will be in an urn, always with their family, and easily movable from place to place. There are also those who believe in the process for its religious and philosophical reasons.
Not really ashen:
Certainly, there are advantages in being cremated; you only have to weigh your options. More importantly, you have to consider the family and loved ones you will leave behind. Perhaps some of them may not be comfortable with the idea, or they may not agree with you on your perspective on expenses, or whatever your consideration is for choosing cremation. Once you have made up your mind, you have to make sure that the crematorium service provider you choose will be able to smoothly assist your family and loved ones in the tough transition they will go through. We understand that your every choice in life, including this important choice, has always been for them.
Again, in the end, it is really up to you. There isn’t any right or wrong decision.